A client of mine gave me the most recent issue of Domination Directory International on Monday. I had never seen this magazine before (don't get in a huff if you can't believe that, I'm all about internet advertising). I really enjoyed looking through the different ads and reading about the featured mistresses, but the article in the back really caught my eye. "Is Your Dominatrix Fully Equipped?"
While reading this I kept asking myself, "Do I fall in to the 'equipped' category?" First this article talked about having a dungeon or play space. "Check" I work at 1763 the biggest damn dungeon in at least the south east if not the country. Next was a little part about furnishings.. Yep we are fully furnished and with specialty rooms, like the medical room and the sissy room. Tools of the trade were next on the list... this is one that when I first started out I struggled a little with. I had to borrow a lot of the nicer stuff until I was able to get my own. And due to a wonderful friend and a very good client I was able to fully stock my toy bag with the general BDSM gear.
Then there was this updated part of the article dealing with communication devices. Such as smart phones and tablets. Hell, I hate talking on the phone. If you want me to answer you back in a timely manner... send me a text. So yeah, I'm all over this one. :P
Clothing was next on the list of must haves for the "fully equipped." Omg do I have clothing. I am in need of a few things for some more specialized role play (nurse's outfit) but for the most part I have a little bit of everything. At least for me, clients... not so much. We do have some sissy dresses in the sissy room and I have hoods and bits but nothing elaborate. I feel that I cannot fully stock the dungeon for every kind of shape and size client that comes in. So if they want a specific role play where they need to be a particular role that requires a costume or a piece of gear that really should fit them (like a puppy hood) then I require them to bring there own. Mostly.. I like them naked and kneeling anyway. LOL
"Fully equipped doesn't necessarily mean fully qualified." I cannot stress this enough with my clients , fellow dommes, and anyone else. I may have an eight foot bull whip... doesn't mean I'm going to use it on any person until I feel that I can be safe with it. Practice, practice, practice. But I do know a few potential professional dommes that had lots of money and were really just bored. They had all this great stuff but didn't really know how to use it well.
I had never heard of the term "Domination Lite" until this article. I feel like I learned something here. I had no idea that this kind of domination had a term. How cool is that?
The last thing this wonderful article talked about was the most important "gear" for a domina... It cannot be bought or made, that is a dominatrix's intelligence and active experience. It stresses on the point that, "Kinky fantasies emanate from between our ears, not between our legs, therefore a dominatrix with a creative imagination, a capacity to problem solve, and an inborn ability to read and interpret the thoughts of her submissive callers surely can consider herself fully equipped, no matter how many tit clamps she has in her cupboard. None of us should ever underestimate the value of a domina's mind. It's her very best asset!" I had to quote it from the article... I just couldn't say it better myself.
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